I really wonder if i will be left on the shelf. i guess i'm going to be...judging from my temper, my very brute actions, and my thoughts about some men.

i'd say men now.. and not guys becos... guys are cool and men.... there's two meaning to it.

1- men are those who are matured and stable in income and being very gentleman.

2- jerks. they are childish and they are cheap. they drool over sexy ladies and can even turn offensive to people whom he don't know. it's as if they havent seen a sexy lady before.

please la! so 白痴for what? it's like as if that sexy lady is the only one he's ever seen in his life. and wish to appear nice to her and treating her like some goddess. social psychology kicks in now.

yeah i know who doesnt like those pretty people or beautiful people to befriend with theM? i know it's like some kind of 'privilege' to be with the cool and special and attractive people. i am one of them too.

just like making comments on fb on my friend's profile. i put a comment trying to say that she's beautiful ( 1- to really state what i sincerely meant, that is she is beautiful. 2- perhaps i do have a hint of wanting her to notice me and make me feel as if i have a friend who is beautiful.)
but this a**hol*, said, 'dont listen to her'.

i mean, it's is a subjective thing right?? i may think that her pic from this angle looked like some taiwanese star and that bloody a** may think she's eurasian like. there's no wrong right? both meant the same thing---that she's beautiful.

see how childish and narrow his sight is!? damn it. see what i mean? it's a subjective thing. why would he just put people down like that? just to get a 'nod' from the beauty goddess? that satisfy your lust only. and that could lead to being some pervertic characteristics man....


sad to hear such comment coming out from Singapore men. .sighh.. i thought singapore men are much higher class than that... my view of singaporeans has degraded...

Labels: men, singaporean, subjective, women

i never talked to qy for such a long time oready... instead. we talk only in class about work.

sigh.. we no longer can meet uup that often oready to have some kind of heart to heart talk..

anyway... kinda felt sad cos someone blocked me from reading his posts. and just to clear up and misunderstandings, no i never talked abt my fren in front of my fren qy or anyone.

oh, i just realised that B/O psych is now 9th dec not 29th dec.. so i gotta write now...

Recruited Ben and Janice for VE... Ben was good.. he chionged and was confident. he was pro active and i am glad.. Thus, he became my motivator instead of the other way round that was supposed to be the correct way. haha!!! Wel that happened to me and melissa was great in motivating. anyway.. i've got ideas to who to approach.. but yeah.. after having Ben as my downline, i became not so reliant on melissa and ..the result??
slacker! But i'm taking sort of 'tips' from ben in being enthu and be confident. Thank mr. Ben. hahah!!


As for Janice... she expressed enthusiasm for it and she was discussing how she saw the difference between VE and other companies she went to and listened. BUt the prob is her parents becos they rejected.. or rather.. her parents and the elders rejected to this idea of network marketing.

i mean... which company dont do that? it's about networking and which company doesnt do that man? you need network to expand your company's name and hopefully get more biz..

and TELL ME WHICH company doesnt do sales?? TELL ME DAMN IT!!!

tell me if those selling giordano.. or sell handphone, or singtel.. or any promotional roadshow etc.. got sales or not...

it's stilll that bl***y H*ll word 'sales'....

tell me if relationship is impt for any biz... that time when i was working at Zara, i had to smile and be super ridiculously courteous to customers.. why??

so that they will feel welcomed and happy and hopefully come back to buy more... is not that sales technique too???

Chinese, Indian Malay, Eurasian etc.. all do biz with the 2 elements-- relationship (network) and Sales.

If not.. tell me how you do biz... all biz models are dead.. how it will work or how successfully it will work all depends on us.. human brains to be flexible to make it work.


of course, experience, skills, knowledge.....(KSAO-- in behaviour in organisation modules-- it means what i mentioned earlier plus ability for A)

so yeah experience does count.. tell me how you accumulate experience?

that means if you do something good, you know it's the way to do it e next time you do it again.

If it's bad, take it as a lesson learnt. and perhaps became shy or scared of it when it's presented to you again.

But if i present something to you that is almost the same.. with a slight difference of e biz model and good products... and so many successful people or example are generated by this biz model to show you... would you still consider it?


Would you consider it, if you were to compare your 'fixed salary-- no matter how hard you work your ass off' biz model against this biz model that will give you the salary that reflects how much hard work you put in?

in another words, would you consider this biz model that applies Equity Theory and Expectancy Theory rather than considering a biz model that don't quite give your equal payment? an example below to illustrate the 2 theories

Equity Theory

One would emphasise on the value ( what you value most-- aka salary, bonuses, incentives etc.) more than need ( you work becos you want to upgrade your skills, to protect your rice bowl..provide your maily with money etc.)

BUt that's secondary... what is primary is what you face at work. That is how the pay you're getting is worth how much of effort you've put in.
If you slogging your life, everyday worry how to save money for the company, or (whatever you wanna put to show you're giving alot of effort) what, and yet you're getting $1000 only, would you wanna continue your effort despite other colleagues are getting the same amt of $$ but are slacking away? or even worst, slacking and gettin more than you like even a difference of $50!

Equity Theory is based on premises that people prefer fairness or justice in relationship with people and in organization. That will result in change in behaviour that is initiated, directed and maintained---so to preserve internal psychological balance.


Expectancy Theory

Consists of VIE-- Valency, Instrumentality and Expectancy.

Expectancy--You 'believe' that if you put 10 units of effort in, you will get a desired or 10 units of desired performance.

Instrumentality-- perceived relationship between performance and the likelihood that a certain outcome will result (or e likelihood score you will get when 'judged' after putting much effort)

Valency-- Value( incentive, money, rewards. etc), level of derived satisfaction derived from outcome.

You may say risks here.. risks there.. but that's what make up experience.. you learn how to avoid or even best, tackle them and pass your knowledge on to whoever might be in the same situation... You may face embarassment or rejections but that's how make us grow man!

my dear fren Mark told me afew days ago that Zac Efron is gay!!!


oh my god.. so hurt! how can such a guy that no one would want to lose, be a gay!??!!

logic so twisted.

genetics and env all comes into play and that is pathetic.

vanessa hudgens is his gf..yeah... paid-to-be-gf!!! darn


can someone heal my heart?!



Declan has become once again, my love.. becos i went to watch his youtube videos again!! my god!

talking abt songs, becos HSM3 song kept playing on the radio, i got addicted to it and dl-ed the song 'Now or Never' but... i want the radio versioN!! i love the heavy breathing and coughing sound of Zac amidst the song!!! makes me go crazy. oh my goodness!!

ok... head A-Ha's song 'take on me' on the laptop that was displayed for sale at Harvey Norman in Square 2 novena. oh my goodness.. i was ecstatic when i heard that!! i never thought anyone in singapore would put that song on laptop display!!

I'm so touched!!! this song is soo valued!!

watched Quantum of Solace last week with my friend and it was wonderful!!! The excitement you receive again and again makes you wanna watch it again!

yoz.. it's yeelee in da house.

Quoting from my friend's blog, "Sometimes I feel confident and attempt to push it a little further. I say silly things in an attempt to flirt with her, hoping that maybe I could charm or trick her into liking me."

Upon reading my fren's blog tat is updated consecutively( normally takes months to write one)this time, I realised that my friend is so troubled by this issue that is the considered the world's most unsolvable problem.

i guess i can say to my fren that, 'rest assured, many people experiences this. Perhaps your love luck is not here yet?' OR
'this is part and parcel of love and to experience these give you an outlook of different people living in this world and you may need to find out solution to every problems every now and then, so don't give up!'

I don't know. I've been treating my fren like my good fren, although i seldom talk to my fren. i guess i know i am not my fren's good fren or close fren or watsoever... but i really hope that ican reach out to my fren so my fren would not feel so lousy. i hope i can lend a listening ear and i guess exude my psychological instinct and to apply what i've learnt.

but,my fren being an introvert(i guess), i need to be more sensitive to my fren. There was once when i talk abt whether my fren is in relationship, my fren kept me suspended and i guess i went a little overboard to ask more about it. it's obvious that my fren din want me to know but i guess i was acting like some smart alec. damn!

but but, i really have NO means of prying into my fren's private life but i tot i could help.
i am sure that it has to do with his ego and id and superego. ego in this case is not the ego but according to Freud, my fren could be suppressed or rather...fixated at certain psychosexual stage.
if not my fren would not feel so inconfident.

my fren, dont hesitate to share your burden and see if i can help you out!

Right...just saw the estudent and there...that significant word ... is there and it is so irking that my heart hurts thru the eyes. (it refers to how the letter is reflected into my eyes and into the optic nerves to brain and heart; human sensation and perception.)

sigh...

anyway... was and am happy that Obama won the election for the presidency! yeah!!! he's all over the pages and tvs and internet news!
Never in our lives, never in the history where a black is so celebrated acrossed the world. not even those from the poorer countries. vietnam i think was also celebrating.

He can be seen as the savior of Mankind, the one who holds the key to the problems that are all so troubling. Be it economy, racial issues, nation with nation issues, poverty etc... he seems to have those policies in his hands to solve 'em.

Not to say he's equivalent to Jesus or whatsoever, but perhaps instead of just praying, action is the most practical and he himself presenting those policies during his election showed his determination, his intelligence and his practicality take on the world's failing economy.

There's so much to do now. of course, the most disastrous and the most tackling issue is the economy. 1st runner up would then be the poverty?? i guess? and then the environment, need to do something to the drastic and quick change of the climate due to industrialisation and globalisation. (as for the elaboration, im sure it's quite common sense to link many of the things we use and see and hear..etc together)

what else does Barack Obama need to do? I'm surre there are much in his list. He knows what he is doing and we of course put our heart at ease when he takes over next year jan... is it 21st? cant rmb. he is one charismatic leader. his voice is so attractive and yet assuring. you can be assure of many things when he speaks out your heart thru his calming tone of voice.


But once again, though we may put our stones that are on our hearts down, leave a little to balance just in case.... we have the history as a form of guidance to the things the ex-US presidents had done. I'm not saying that Obama might wreck the globalisation scale but, dont you people out there see that we are putting too much of our hearts down when president George Bush was the president? we are kind of blindfolded or brain washed when Bush agreed to have that Iraqi war? perhaps there's more than it meets the eye so i cant really comment on that but i guess Democracy should come in earlier to stop the tragedy.

I havent read up on the history of US's presidency, which i know i am going to forget and not care abt it, so taking president George Bush as the example may be too extreme. Hopefully when Obama takes over, the people can look clearly at the things he will do and to think of long term changes that might affect the world.

there's so much to blog about but i kind of forgot. anyway, i got news that jemie and yeeteng passed their stats with D. or rather ..jemie got D